
The other night as I was putting Lydia to bed she stopped me and said, “I…I…I am scared…” I said, “Scared? Scared of what?” We have been through fear with Lydia. First it was big tall men, then thunderstorms, then fireworks and talking to adults. But what could she be scared of in our own home?
She finally (after several minutes of coaxing) said she was afraid of someone coming into our house and ultimately into her room. I was shocked. “Who told you that? Did you see it on TV? In a book?” And she said no, it just popped in her head.
And since then it has been nighttime drama. She insists she “can’t” get rid of the thought. We’ve talked about thinking on things that are lovely (Philippians 4:8) and how God can give peace (Psalm 4:8) and about 12000 other verses that are appropriate and helpful. So, she’s been staying awake in her bed for hours and then getting up early. Which results in such BAD BAD behavior the next day. (Honestly, I think I’m going to write a post how no sleep=bad behavior.)
Scripture is really the only way I know to combat any of this stuff. Sleeping with all the lights on doesn’t solve the problem. You certainly can’t discipline her. But she is getting to the point of arguing and manipulating me with continuing to talk about how she “can’t” and “but it’s still in my mind!”, etc. etc.
I’ve got the feeling that she needs something tangible. A few people suggested putting some “safety powder” or spray around the room (just any old spray or powder and call it magical!). And although I understand the thought behind it, I don’t want my daughter to trust in something so trivial and false. I need her to (on a 5 year old level) deal with this the best she can.

So, we made a Scripture verse reminder tool. It’s called, “My God Can”. I got the idea from Dennis Lee an amazing ventriloquist I met at Children’s Pastors Conference one year. The pun is that it is “my God can” but really it’s a can that holds all the things MY GOD CAN do!
We just wrapped a raisin container with paper and then decorated it. We memorized Job 42:2, “I know that you can do all things.” and then began to think of all the scriptures we knew about the great promises of God. For each scripture we picked an object to put in the can.
When Lydia begins to feel scared or out-of-control she can go to her God Can and look through the objects and remember each promise that goes with it.

We’re going to have to go on a search (even to the store) to find some of the objects we need. But right now we’ve got 3 items:
- a puffball to remind us of Proverbs 15:1, “A gentle answer turns anger away.” This is to help her be gentle with her brother.
- a candle to remind us of John 8:12, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” Perfect for dark nights in your room.
- a rock for Psalm 40:1-2 “I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand.” She really recognizes that her fear is a slimy pit and she needs God to lift her out and help her stand firm.

Lydia listening to Psalm 40:1-2 on Seeds and playing with the objects in her God Can. See how the puffball is on top of the rock?
Along with this we turned on Seeds of Worship’s Seeds of Courage
CD and have been listening to it nonstop. There are TONS of great scriptures on it that we need to memorize and are going to get objects for as we do. So, here are a few more scriptures and objects we’ll be adding:
Philippians 4:8 {a flower to remind us of the lovely things we should think about}
Philppians 4:6-7 {not sure, but this verse is about the peace of God guarding our hearts. Maybe a little knight? Or army man?}
Philippians 4:13 {this is the one she needs to help combat the “I can’t!”–maybe a little strong armed guy?}
Isaiah 41:10 {her favorite song from Seeds and we’re hoping to find a little hand!}
Psalm 4:8 {a little pillow to remind her of sleeping in peace}
Isaiah 26:3 {this is another one about keeping your mind fixed on God and having peace…not sure of an object}
I’m hoping this will be the tangible visual item she needs to help focus and relax her mind. The main problem is that she keeps thinking there is an “easy fix”. Every time I tell her to sing a song or think about something else she argues, “But I did! And that thought is still there. It’s like half my mind is good and half is bad.” I explained that just like medicine is taken in doses and food is eaten 3 times a day, God’s Word has to be continually feasted on. I pray these objects will remind her to continually focus on what God CAN and WILL do for her!

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